A thought came to my mind as I was writing the other day. Something that I do very often and its been bugging me. Maybe you do it too? Why are we likely to answer the question, “How’s everything going?” with generic one word answers like, ‘Great!’, ‘Busy’ or ‘Fine’? Are we afraid of telling people how life really is (the good and the bad)? Are we shying away from meaningful conversations? Or are we just not asking the right questions?
Then today I happened on the perfect article about it here so I felt it was too serendipitous not to share.
The article prompts us to ask these 5 questions instead of, “How are you?”, and I agree that these are much better ways to start a conversation with friends, family, coworkers and even ourselves! So I’ve decided to try it today for #fridayintroductions here on Instagram. I’d love for you to join me here or there with your answers as well.
1. What was the best part about your day?
2. What work is most exciting you this week?
3. What new ideas are giving you energy lately?
4. Tell me one thing you’ve learned recently that inspired you.
5. What is one thing we could do right now to make this (day, project, event) even better?
What I love about these questions is that they ask you to take pause, think about the moment, and answer about the actions behind the feelings. Besides moving beyond the one word answers, they also invite us to turn a bad day around and focus on the positive as well as make the great days ones to really cherish and celebrate.
I’d like to take this a step further and offer suggestions for 5 questions to ask couples during wedding planning and I might even incorporate these into my new client questionnaire as we talk about the role stationery plays in your day.
1. What would you like to be the best part of your wedding day?
2. What part of the process excites you the most?
3. What about your wedding day gives you energy?
4. Name something you’ve learned about your partner that inspires you?
5. What is one thing that I can do to make your day, the process, or your connection to your guests even better?
Like this post if you think these are the questions we need more of in our daily conversations and as we talk about weddings. What would you add to these lists?
Thanks to Corey Lynn Tucker for this sweet pic of my love and I! And now I have some new questions for date night.